"I'm Doing Everything Right"

Just because you’re not doing anything wrong, doesn’t mean you’re doing everything right. The margin between right and wrong is vast, and can take on many forms.

It’s better to not be the one to acknowledge your performance. Just do it and listen. When someone else tells you it’s right, you’ll have the validation you were looking for.

On the other hand, the feedback might be that you’re not doing enough. To that, you must set realistic expectations, put your head back down, and suppress your own further commentary until you can listen again.

It’s alright to be wrong. But it’s not wrong to force what’s right.

A List of Obligations

The best way for a busy professional to find their true purpose is to strip obligations from their regimen one-by-one. 

After all, when we're truly being, we forget about what we're actually doing. The outcome is action without too much thought and stress.

Thus, when you remove one of those "things," the resulting feeling will either be a liberation or an emptiness. 

It's an experiment in the measurement of stress, but more importantly, it's a path to identifying what makes you whole. 

January 2018

What's in store for the first month of 2018? Here's what I have on my calendar right now:

  • Jan 1: New Year's Day
  • Jan 1: UCF vs. Auburn (Peach Bowl)
  • Jan 16: Netflix Q4 Earnings Call
  • Jan 23: The Killers at American Airlines Arena
  • Jan 24: Alphabet Q4 Earnings Call
  • Jan 29: Apple Q4 Earnings Call
  • Jan 30: Facebook Q4 Earnings Call

I greatly look forward to a few other personal events that will be taking place in January. I also can't wait for a month of cooler weather, and the anticipated start of my 2018 baseball season.

What do you have planned in January?

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Slow Down

Humans tend to want to move as quickly as possible at all times. The nature of keeping busy is to never stop doing something.

Whenever focus is involved, though, it's almost always better to stop what you're doing, take a deep breath, and move slower.

Think about the last time you were proud of something you created. Now think about the creation process. Was it spawned out of urgency on the first attempt? Or did you think about it, filter through your options, and revise it countless times?

I'm convinced that we do our best work when our minds are purposefully honed in on the task at hand. I'm convinced that stopping to absorb information before taking action on it thwarts emotions from intercepting the true intent.

More than anything, I'm convinced that we simply do better work when we don't try to do so much.

So slow down. You're stressing yourself out.

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Happiness is Not the Fish

When we catch a fish, it's cause for celebration on the boat.

If you keep catching the fish, it begins to feel redundant and too easy.

Take my word for it...

The most joy you'll get from the fishing trip is leaning into the unknown outcomes.

It's about challenging ourselves with the question "will I catch the fish?" and welcoming that we don't know what will happen.

At the end of the day, you'll be more pleased with the overall experience than you were with the number of fish you got to take the bait.

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Freedom Over Status

I can't tell you the exact moment it happens, but it does. We all turn into adults and we begin to realize our newfound responsibilities. 

If you would have asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up every few years growing up, these are some of the answers you would have received:

  • A baseball player
  • A drummer
  • A filmmaker
  • A music supervisor

For whatever reason, as children, we are almost hypnotized by those that we observe from a distance. And everyone we observed growing up was shown to us through television. 

It was the athletes, the actors, and the musicians that I wanted to be. And I'm not sure why.

As children, we don't see the other side of life. We don't cherish relationships, bask in peace, and thrive upon our abilities to do what we want. As adults, that's exactly what we do. And rightfully so.

While there are always going to be adults searching for fame and fortune, others like me, start to look through the array of obligation, to find the meaning of life. 

I began to realize what it all meant after I had children. It's the evolution toward the mentality that everything I do is for their future betterment. It's selfless, and it's everything. 

So I started to wonder about the opposite of fame and fortune. Because that's what I was starting to seek. I was realizing that all I want is more time with my family, stress-free work, and more freedom to make decisions. 

I quickly found that the more I simplified my life - less stuff, less meetings, less expenses, etc. - the better I felt. After all, none of that stuff matters. What matters most is my happiness and fulfillment. 

So here I am declaring success in my newfound ability to simplify my life. I don't overthink, I just do. I don't look ahead, I live in the moment. Most of all, I don't hope for something I don't want - because everything that I could ever want is already right in front of me. 

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